We hope you feel with our section being from the coffee hall where we wish old know I'm feeling much
better.
No.
But I don't know what you're thinking about the course right now.
You may be thinking to yourself wow Kane this just wasn't what I signed up for.
I just thought you'd give us a few techniques or a couple of really earned life coaching exercises they
could send us on our merry way.
Well listen I do appreciate that's what much of life training over there has to offer but it's not what
I like to offer.
You see who I am speaking to right now is someone who I'm hoping is serious about making a positive
impact in the lives of other people.
Hence the reason I haven't shared that many techniques or models or processes with you.
Up until now though I do appreciate that last section is quite heavy and fearless.
All right.
I'm talking about corum for whole use.
There is there isn't really any greater depth that we could go with someone else.
Now you may be thinking to yourself What the hell am I going to do with all this stuff came in.
And if you are asking the question well I would but it's a good sign because you're looking at how you
could action what I've shared with you rather than just regurgitate or duplicate.
Because when it comes to life coaching there is no right or wrong way but doing things that are some
large certain vacation bodies out there who just kind of make up their own sets rules they're not arja
to stay apart from them.
I'm going to strongly urge you to in fact break all the rules and figure out your own style and your
own approach.
What I'm going to do throughout the sections of follow up with to share with you of how it is that I
approach life coaching and in fact in this video I'm going to introduce you to the first six steps that
you can take to start initiating life coaching you stroke client relationships today if you so choose
the moment because you can watch all the courses in the world.
You can read all the books you can study study study go and study psychology and then go pee and philosophy
and tireless and Quail's.
There's value in a lot of it.
There's absolutely no value in a lot of it also.
So what haven't done through this course hawken you know been a beginning to recognize is I've elicited
the love extracted all the good stuff all the stuff that you can actually use.
All the stuff that will actually enable you to understand those people that you're working with more
effectively and with the left all the rest of the stuff behind.
So just to introduce this section of the course this section were going to fundamentally be focussing
on relationship skills and communication skills because you can have all the information in the world.
But if you are completely on relational or if you are uncertain on how to communicate in the most effective
ways you're always going to be limited in regards to the results you're going to be able to help other
people.
Our search team through your life coach and practice saw what we're going to do and know right now is
a star doing together and structuring everything that I've shared with you throughout the course up
until now because I've done quite a lot on you.
And you may be thinking wow this is really in-depth and quite abstract stuff Ken but how the hell would
I even begin using this.
Well six steps on the board I've written the weight behind me there ain't no gonna have a little kid
a six step guide framework if you want to be attached to any additional material section you can download
print off and keep in your life coaching repertoire aid.
Call it whatever you want.
See before I it again working with anyone a client or even in the context of a group I need to be 100
percent completely clear.
They know what it is that they actually want.
Because some people will come to you with problems but they're not even actually dug clear of what the
problems are.
So the first step I would take before saying yes or low to working with anyone in the Life Coaching
context is I would pass them.
The life balance questionnaire.
No a shared with you earlier on in the course.
There's the one that I would order with Kim Ramsay branded one but we also shared with year Emma pdaf.
There's just the plain text so you can take that text you can repackage it rewire.
Use as a framework to start designing your own.
There's a Web site that I'm going to strongly recommend.
This is where I'm getting slightly practice called you know as well rather than rather than deep.
A website called cans that I'll share a link to convert the additional material section of the Course
also cover as online graphic design software and you might be thinking Oh but I am a graphic designer.
Neither am I.
This is so unbelievably easy to use and it's free kind of provides you with templates it provides you
with layouts.
All these different designs are we simply do is just drag and drop.
You can create your own business cards your own social media posts you can create your own work books
your own question here is anything you want and you can do it for free.
Now there is a paid version.
No I'm not getting any money from recommend them there.
What I'm sort of saying is that if you sign up get yourself an account you're going to be using exactly
the same software as what I use on my wife current uses to design other workbooks are we design so it's
just to help you see what's actually possible.
A little bit of practice and you'll be able to create some really cool stuff for yourself.
Promise you it's cold can never know come about the life balance.
Question here is something that we designed in Canada but it's a first step.
First stage the life coach and process.
If someone is unwilling to complete the life balance questionnaire then I couldn't give them any more
time because they're not actually that committed to taking responsibility for themselves.
You see before you're willing or prepared to give someone your time it's going to be important for you
to get some sort of buy in.
So you are asking someone to conduct a life balance question and you can frame less however you want.
You can just say listen before start coaching with anyone.
I like them to conduct this questionnaire.
This helps us both become clear on exactly what areas of your life it is that you actually want to start
making progress and progress understanding.
Were starting to use these words now into our buildings words intercommunications winstein Progress
is a core value of what progress means for you may be something different for what it means for me but
what it means for you may be different from what it means to decline but progress within itself is still
the value.
That going to buy into They've come to you because they want to make progress.
So you're doing on this unconscious level was just fundamentally acknowledging that.
So the lifeboat question comes first once they've conducted that.
Going to have what I would personally do is I would I would meet them for for a half hour consultation
session me in Starbucks on costers or with.
Wherever you want to go in a Kaffee near you stay away from the pub and go for a coffee.
Keep it informal if you like and what I'm looking to establish know is what the undesired motion is
the harm of their lives.
Fundamentally don't want to know.
Remember Section 2 of the course.
I spend a whole section assigned a whole section of the course to helping you to understand emotions
people emotional worlds how thoughts influence emotions all that sort of thing.
Bear in mind that every problem that we have in life has an emotional attachment to it.
So basically the emotion that you're able to help someone acknowledge that you're able to identify in
a person is good to be assigned to the major area in their life that they're struggling with the most.
So you're looking at the life balance question have to get a broad overview of their life and then looking
to have a conversation to establish what their main major undesired emotion is in their life that they
want to deal with right away.
So you know starting to get clear on what it is they are coming to you with because most people believe
it a lot are when a door they're going to come to you as a life coach just wanting you to fix them and
make all their problems go away.
But that's not something that you get ever going to be able to do.
The first part of their recovery process is actually taken responsibility for the issues that they have.
Hunt No.
The third step.
To conversationally just come into agreement on what the desired coach and galdos was the main reason
was the main goal that they want to work towards if they're coming to you just saying more ball load
soon ruins.
Well that's a pretty broad problem and yeah good luck solving no one.
But if they are coming here with one specific goal one specific issue which are going to help them do
through the life balance questionnaire.
And identifying the undesired emotion or we're really looking to do here is it's okay.
What's the first thing that we want to work on.
We're really going to focus on one thing at a time.
So it may be the case to have 20 problems in which case you might need more than a half or a coffee.
You might need to spend a little bit longer in fact you might even need to charge for this.
You might need to to charge so much money for an initial consult consultation session and this consultation
session is designed to to work at all the main problems of the heart which again you're going to draw
from the life balance questionnaire that they filled out.
And then you just going to prioritize them.
So what's the first goal that we want to work towards.
What's the second goal that we're going to work towards.
And it's important to understand what the goals are because 19 to 10 a lot of the goals were going to
connect in the same way that all the core values through the last section completely interconnected.
Now that last section really came to core values.
It might have felt like I just dumped a whole lot of information on you some people possibly may even
find themselves getting quite frustrated feeling like I'm just babbling on and off.
So I think he's got to understand that this is the very essence of what makes us human.
These core values are things that these things go around on the inside of us.
The driver so there's no structure to them.
They're all over the place and it's not known how to ascertain or I feel these call core values that
causes people most problems in life.
It's not something that will ever focus on fast or race although we understand the core values is the
main driving force.
The main problem that people have not having the core values may not be the case that someone consciously
seen although I do love the job.
I don't have a job I'm scared some brought.
And whilst they think that's the main problem it appears to be the main problem.
But it's but it's actually not the main problem is that they perhaps have not meeting the needs of security
they're not able to provide for themselves or their families they don't feel financially secure.
Their security is the issue it's not the lack of money.
It's a security need or value not being met.
So it's a messy process.
It's not straightforward because human beings were not straightforward creatures that we know before
we started moving on to the core identity and delve in right into phony's.
It's important that we establish what the clients mean limiting beliefs is no.
This for me is something that I would do on a very first session with someone right.
Remember the demonstration that given in the section of the course with Karen when I invited a lot of
the Karen up well this is something that I'm going to I would urge you to get good at doing yourself.
No.
I'm offering you the framework of provider at fauria the set of questions are the exact set of questions
that I use to establish what the limiting beliefs are that people have that they believe are present
preventing them from the and achieving and pursuing their goals.
No they don't undermine the power of this exercise by the way I think it's just a set of questions.
But if you give someone the time and the space to really ponder over these questions.
There can be absolutely profound.
This can be you can end up facilitating a huge aha moment in someone's life.
Just from asking these questions.
Believe it or not you don't actually need to put any work in.
You just need to offer some some quiet space some time some attention some patience and allow them to
do all the work.
Allow them to do all the internal processing because if they don't do that you're never going to be
able to make any real difference with them anyway.
So once they established what their limiting belief is or what their limiting beliefs are we know hopefully
are able to see that the main limiting beliefs that are going to have are going to be attached to their
identity in some way.
Those are the limiting belief that they have is always going to be about themselves or the belief about
their ability to ascertain the things that they want us to attain in life to achieve the goals that
they want to achieve to to build the relationships that they want to build.
So they're limiting belief is going to be something along the lines of They're not good enough.
They're not smart enough they're not clever enough they're not skilled enough not talented enough not
handsome enough not pretty enough not thin enough not not enough not about enough.
And this is the very essence of limiting beliefs limiting beliefs.
Bear in mind that the beliefs that they develop about themselves as children and most children are at
not particularly intellectual wrote the beliefs that they develop are just the noose around the neck.
They're holding them back.
They develop the boat themselves when they were young.
And these are the beliefs we want to start working with.
We want to start challenging We want to start confronting and we want to start tearing down.
And we do this by by using the core identity coaching model.
This may potentially be its session two hours or session three.
It might be the case as a coach you edgeley Spend one little session educating them or you know you
can always point them in the direction of course like this or you could point them in the direction
of one of the other courses or a book that you've read over the years.
It's really been beneficial to you.
Good it comes to educating.
What I've always historically done in the past is our low one session which is just more me teaching
rather than me asking questions or solving problems.
It's about finding a place a balance an equilibrium where the clients we're working printed becoming
aligned.
I'm explaining a set of standards and foundations I'm helping them to understand themselves slowly more
effectively looking at where the problems are.
Remember the illustration earlier on we're a fishley introduced you to you looked at body soul spirit
soul helping us to to identify that the problems aren't physical.
They're kind of in there somewhere.
And their spirit a touch that identity is important to enlighten and educate clients in this way.
Because to be honest with you when we start looking at core values and priorities and core identity
we're talking in really deep stuff.
So you've got to be offering them information that fundamentally agree with and that they buy into because
if they don't agree and buy into this information than a dozen marsa how deep you go they're not going
to go there with you.
So for this video we're not going to go any further.
All right this is for I no this on when I give you I'm going to leave you hanging.
Quite a young man to do.
Towards the end of the course perhaps a second last section or a third last section.
I'm going to sign a full section of the course.
So a seven stage coaching process no I to share with you how it is that I work for this coach and process.
But to be honest with you hope i work it might not be relevant or appropriate for you.
So it's going to be important that you discern the essence of what I'm talking about in the same way
that this is just a guide.
You know I'm going to say to you please don't rigidly just write these six steps down and walk in.
So step one step two step three.
Don't be too rigid with this stuff.
Be flexible.
Just use it as a rough framework to go off but at all times be discerning off your client's needs.
Right because we know what the needs and the values are gone.
But deep in the last section you know that I am changing the tone slightly were coming back both for
much the remainder of the Course I'm going to go a lot more practical one year because it's not what
you say is not how much you know that's going to make the difference.
It's sometimes how you see what you see and how you conduct yourself for them.
There's going to determine whether whether they get the insights that they need to get because life
isn't about you impressing them with cool techniques.
The mission in insights is actually about them work in all of this stuff out for themselves.
And you are just kind of the mediator between that between where they are at and where they ultimately
want to go to get to sort the sections hold this hope this is useful for you through the section as
already mentioned.
I'm going to start looking to see or helping you to understand thoughtfully how to manage your relationships
slightly more effectively in view of helping them to manage their expectations of you.
We're going to be looking at some communication skills some some really high impact language patterns
that we can use and some of the stuff I've drawn from any or some I've drawn from more therapy frameworks
and what talking you're going to be able to see by the end of the section is that it's it's not just
life coaching life coaching is not just a separate entity.
It's it's kind of a up pocket or a body of information that were kind of drawn from all over the place
because life is just life is different for all of us.
There's no one right or wrong way off of life coaching.
And I'm hoping that you're going to be able to figure out your way by the time we eventually reach the
end of this course.
Introduction over let's get stuck in about relationship skills and communication skills.
See the next video.